分享與公婆同住心得 - 婚姻

By Callum
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是否同意記者抄文:no
看到前篇沸沸揚揚
最近也有蠻多關於長輩同住的討論
來分享我與公婆同住的心得
(第一次po文不知是否有違版規)
我的背景
結婚三年、雙薪、一寶
剛結婚時沒多想,因老公家蠻大的(透天三層)
從沒想過會有什麼婆媳問題,就傻傻的住進公婆家了XD
一樓為客廳餐廳廚房,我住二樓、公婆住三樓
簡單介紹一下公婆
皆已退休,兩人身體有些慢性病及重大傷病,目前生活都還可自理
平時大多都在家,休閒娛樂就是旅遊、爬山、吃美食
剛住進來當然很不習慣,也為此跟老公爭吵了許多次
我懂前一篇原Po所說的意思
因為我老公也對我說過類似的話
他覺得爸媽還有體力也就剩這幾年了
對他很重要,想多陪伴他們
雖然公婆蠻多朋友的,但他們的重心大多還是在家人身上
比起跟朋友他們更喜歡家人聚在一起的感覺
捨不得丟下兩老
老公:他爸媽人很好又不會干涉太多,為什麼我不能接受呢?
而我:就是想要有自己的家阿
總之這個議題吵不完阿
不過好像在同住的過程中慢慢地我也習慣了
俗稱進去了就很難出來了?(誤)
來說說優點
婆婆平日每天都會煮飯,而且很好吃~
對上班族來說真的是太幸福啦。
長輩會幫忙照顧小孩、家務等等,可以讓我跟老公有時間休息,是超好的後援。
公婆生活習慣良好,家都都很乾淨整齊~反而是我比較亂婆婆有時還會幫我整理(遮臉)。
真的很省錢,這三年來跟老公存了不少存款。
公婆家跟我娘家也很近~所以我隨時可以回去,他們也不會管我要去哪。
而且我爸媽跟公婆還是好朋友,會一起旅遊跟喝咖啡,這樣的關係我覺得很不錯^^。
缺點
家裡的擺設
除了我房間以外,客廳及廚房的幾乎都照公婆的意思,雖然生活上沒太大的影響,只是我
私心很想有自己的擺設方式,但畢竟不是我的家這點只能放棄。
大家說的隱私問題
一開始當然會有點在意,不過可能久了我也放開了,現在彼此都很隨興了。
小孩教育的問題
這有長輩顧的一定會遇到的,真的是無解呀
媽媽我只能學習如何平衡及放寬心,老公的角色也很重要!
我遇到問題會跟老公討論後,再請他去跟公婆溝通這樣。
關於廚房的使用
廚房是婆婆的地盤,還好我不太煮飯
有時候我喜歡做一些甜點,我就會利用晚上孩子睡覺的時間、或假日使用,避免跟婆婆重
疊。
大家的習慣、個性及條件都不同
公婆同住沒辦法套用在每個人
但若有一方無法接受那就不要勉強彼此了。
過程中一定會遇到摩擦,我會換個角度想
或許他們同樣也是在包容我這位媳婦吧哈
都是一家人,有時候退一步就算了
有優點也有缺點
既然在這條路上,
學習彼此互相包容與尊重
開心生活是最重要的!
以上分享
--
看到前篇沸沸揚揚
最近也有蠻多關於長輩同住的討論
來分享我與公婆同住的心得
(第一次po文不知是否有違版規)
我的背景
結婚三年、雙薪、一寶
剛結婚時沒多想,因老公家蠻大的(透天三層)
從沒想過會有什麼婆媳問題,就傻傻的住進公婆家了XD
一樓為客廳餐廳廚房,我住二樓、公婆住三樓
簡單介紹一下公婆
皆已退休,兩人身體有些慢性病及重大傷病,目前生活都還可自理
平時大多都在家,休閒娛樂就是旅遊、爬山、吃美食
剛住進來當然很不習慣,也為此跟老公爭吵了許多次
我懂前一篇原Po所說的意思
因為我老公也對我說過類似的話
他覺得爸媽還有體力也就剩這幾年了
對他很重要,想多陪伴他們
雖然公婆蠻多朋友的,但他們的重心大多還是在家人身上
比起跟朋友他們更喜歡家人聚在一起的感覺
捨不得丟下兩老
老公:他爸媽人很好又不會干涉太多,為什麼我不能接受呢?
而我:就是想要有自己的家阿
總之這個議題吵不完阿
不過好像在同住的過程中慢慢地我也習慣了
俗稱進去了就很難出來了?(誤)
來說說優點
婆婆平日每天都會煮飯,而且很好吃~
對上班族來說真的是太幸福啦。
長輩會幫忙照顧小孩、家務等等,可以讓我跟老公有時間休息,是超好的後援。
公婆生活習慣良好,家都都很乾淨整齊~反而是我比較亂婆婆有時還會幫我整理(遮臉)。
真的很省錢,這三年來跟老公存了不少存款。
公婆家跟我娘家也很近~所以我隨時可以回去,他們也不會管我要去哪。
而且我爸媽跟公婆還是好朋友,會一起旅遊跟喝咖啡,這樣的關係我覺得很不錯^^。
缺點
家裡的擺設
除了我房間以外,客廳及廚房的幾乎都照公婆的意思,雖然生活上沒太大的影響,只是我
私心很想有自己的擺設方式,但畢竟不是我的家這點只能放棄。
大家說的隱私問題
一開始當然會有點在意,不過可能久了我也放開了,現在彼此都很隨興了。
小孩教育的問題
這有長輩顧的一定會遇到的,真的是無解呀
媽媽我只能學習如何平衡及放寬心,老公的角色也很重要!
我遇到問題會跟老公討論後,再請他去跟公婆溝通這樣。
關於廚房的使用
廚房是婆婆的地盤,還好我不太煮飯
有時候我喜歡做一些甜點,我就會利用晚上孩子睡覺的時間、或假日使用,避免跟婆婆重
疊。
大家的習慣、個性及條件都不同
公婆同住沒辦法套用在每個人
但若有一方無法接受那就不要勉強彼此了。
過程中一定會遇到摩擦,我會換個角度想
或許他們同樣也是在包容我這位媳婦吧哈
都是一家人,有時候退一步就算了
有優點也有缺點
既然在這條路上,
學習彼此互相包容與尊重
開心生活是最重要的!
以上分享
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