累積的小事讓我很痛苦 - 婚姻
By Daph Bay
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我自己是老公,也是經濟支柱,老婆全職媽媽,
有四寶(1+1+2,一姐三弟)
看了你的文章,希望能幫你老公一把
(不是幫你,是你老公,他絕對是被手游及經濟給麻痺的工具人)
小孩越小,付出的時間相對獲得的親情回饋絕對是最高,隨著小孩越來越大,有時候陪
玩一整天可能都還沒有同學幾句話來得重要(當過青少年的大家應該能理解同儕在青少
年時期有多麼可怕的重要)
老大姐姐當初太太認為自己已經是全職媽媽,就想一肩扛起,能自己來就自己來,不過
老大的確是無敵高需求寶寶(一路撐到兩三歲才好),也讓太太顧得非常疲累,她願意
放手我才慢慢能跟老大有較多的互動(雖然我是在家工作者,但是老婆幾乎都是自己處
理,很偶爾才需要我幫忙)
跟後面三個弟弟比起來,我只能說,爸爸越早跟嫰嬰接觸(不論是換尿布、哄睡、唸故
事、陪玩任何事情都好)“彼此”的親情升溫真的會越快,雖然老大是女兒,但是不得
不說,我對於女兒最無感,因為她小時候真的無敵愛哭,聽到她的哭聲我會瞬間緊繃(
請想想一個老爸躺著裝睡,因為老婆說她要自己來,但是哭聲可以一路好幾個小時短短
續續到天亮,就知道我對於女兒的哭聲真的永生難忘)
而三個弟弟雖然皮,但是跟我的感情其實真的相對親密非常多,老大姐姐一直到兩三歲
不會瘋狂黏媽媽,才願意正視我這個爸爸的實際存在(原本只是一個惹她厭的媽媽替代
品)
講了這麼多好像無關緊要的,真的只是希望你給你先生一些機會,我當初為了逃避也是
瘋狂玩手游,但是後來就直接果斷刪除了,畢竟那個對人生真的沒有太多意義,只是單
純逃避,現在盡量試著放一些簡單的讓先生與小孩有更多接觸機會(就算是陪玩玩具,
或是逛網路玩具店,任何你先生感興趣的都好,想盡辦法讓他們彼此對對方都有一絲絲
的興趣,而不是一邊只會賺錢一邊只會花錢,這樣的家庭,到後來會沒有任何向心力)
PS我現在還是有玩手游跟SWITCH,只是不會花太多時間,而四寶大部分的雜務如果我在
家,我都會包下來,除了讓老婆休息也是讓我跟孩子們更親密,孩子們也很愛跟我們一
起玩SWITCH。
這些不是天生就會的,是爸爸,老公,媽媽,老婆,四個身份都要各自付出的,共勉之
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有四寶(1+1+2,一姐三弟)
看了你的文章,希望能幫你老公一把
(不是幫你,是你老公,他絕對是被手游及經濟給麻痺的工具人)
小孩越小,付出的時間相對獲得的親情回饋絕對是最高,隨著小孩越來越大,有時候陪
玩一整天可能都還沒有同學幾句話來得重要(當過青少年的大家應該能理解同儕在青少
年時期有多麼可怕的重要)
老大姐姐當初太太認為自己已經是全職媽媽,就想一肩扛起,能自己來就自己來,不過
老大的確是無敵高需求寶寶(一路撐到兩三歲才好),也讓太太顧得非常疲累,她願意
放手我才慢慢能跟老大有較多的互動(雖然我是在家工作者,但是老婆幾乎都是自己處
理,很偶爾才需要我幫忙)
跟後面三個弟弟比起來,我只能說,爸爸越早跟嫰嬰接觸(不論是換尿布、哄睡、唸故
事、陪玩任何事情都好)“彼此”的親情升溫真的會越快,雖然老大是女兒,但是不得
不說,我對於女兒最無感,因為她小時候真的無敵愛哭,聽到她的哭聲我會瞬間緊繃(
請想想一個老爸躺著裝睡,因為老婆說她要自己來,但是哭聲可以一路好幾個小時短短
續續到天亮,就知道我對於女兒的哭聲真的永生難忘)
而三個弟弟雖然皮,但是跟我的感情其實真的相對親密非常多,老大姐姐一直到兩三歲
不會瘋狂黏媽媽,才願意正視我這個爸爸的實際存在(原本只是一個惹她厭的媽媽替代
品)
講了這麼多好像無關緊要的,真的只是希望你給你先生一些機會,我當初為了逃避也是
瘋狂玩手游,但是後來就直接果斷刪除了,畢竟那個對人生真的沒有太多意義,只是單
純逃避,現在盡量試著放一些簡單的讓先生與小孩有更多接觸機會(就算是陪玩玩具,
或是逛網路玩具店,任何你先生感興趣的都好,想盡辦法讓他們彼此對對方都有一絲絲
的興趣,而不是一邊只會賺錢一邊只會花錢,這樣的家庭,到後來會沒有任何向心力)
PS我現在還是有玩手游跟SWITCH,只是不會花太多時間,而四寶大部分的雜務如果我在
家,我都會包下來,除了讓老婆休息也是讓我跟孩子們更親密,孩子們也很愛跟我們一
起玩SWITCH。
這些不是天生就會的,是爸爸,老公,媽媽,老婆,四個身份都要各自付出的,共勉之
----
Sent from BePTT on my Xiaomi M2101K9G
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